At your core, you want to be seen. But are you being seen by youself?
Wanting to be seen and understood is natural.
It’s what humans crave.
When you feel unseen and unheard, you start to feel lonely and isolated by the world.
In that moment when you find a meme that resonated with you on a personal level,
when you find someone on YouTube talking about their perspective on being a mixed kid and sharing their experience that resonates with you,
or when your bestie or partner knows how to make you happy by bringing you matcha when you’re overwhelmed with work that makes you think “wow they knew what I wanted in that moment more than I did”
You think to yourself, “I feel understood. I’m not the only one. Someone gets me. I feel seen.”
You feel a sense of belonging, acceptance.
You feel seen and understood without having to explain yourself.
Without having to justify or over explain how you feel and why.
I think it just has to do with how we all crave some type of connection with one another at the end of the day as human beings.
We want to belong.
And having a community is how our ancestors lived their lives.
Here’s the funny thing, sometimes we expect that from other people when we don't even have that acceptance & acknowledgement for ourselves.
We want to be heard and seen when we don’t even give the space for ourselves to feel heard and seen.
Sure it’s nice when someone gets you, but do you even get yourself?
There’s beauty when you actually see yourself, get yourself, and understand yourself.
When you find peace within yourself.
Getting dressed in a way that makes you feel seen, not just from others but by your own self, is magnetic.
You get to be the one that says “I hear you, I understand you and I acknowledge you” to yourself and it's so powerful.
It’s so powerful to rely on yourself to make yourself feel validated and seen.
I like to look at style as a form of “who you are” being expressed, validated and acknowledged
Ever went to a clothing store and your friend said “This is so you!” and showed you an item? Maybe you even thought to yourself “Yeah that is so me”
And most of the time, we don't even know why we said that.
Was it the color? The print? The shape? The fabric? Or all of the above?
But you and your friend knew that clothing piece resonates with you somehow some way on an energetic level.
There was a vibe.
When you wear something that makes you feel “oh yeah this is so me”, you’re tapping into your magnetism.
It’s that self-acceptance & self-acknowledgement coming to play.
It’s magnetic because you’re amplifying your own power and magic.
You're your own walking billboard representing who you are, with no shame but with love.
That’s on self love babyyyy
Your personality, values, characteristics, hobbies, taste, likes and dislikes ALL contribute to what you are drawn to and why.
When you learn how these clothing pieces are making you go “this is so me”, now you get to repeat this process everyday.
Everyday you get to self-validate and have full ownership of who you are.
Isn’t that better than waiting for someone to say “I get you boo”?
And if you still want someone to get you, which we all do to some level, you first have to get yourself.
Understand yourself, get to know yourself.
It’s the same concept as “love yourself before you love someone else”.
As cheesy as it may sound, you have to fill up your own cup first so that you have yourself at the end of the day and some extra love to give.
If you want style to be the tool to self-accept and self-validate through self-discovery, “Magnetic Style Manifestation” is where you will experience this.
If you are in the process of, or never gave yourself the space and time to get to know yourself, let's do it together!
Ngl, it is a process that can feel overwhelming when you’re just starting this healing journey, so if you want me by your side, let’s co-create some magic!
